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“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” – Maya Angelou

What does it mean to “Own Your Story”?

We all have parts of our story that are more painful than others. And because it’s in our DNA to avoid pain, we often lock up these parts, hoping to never see them again.

Owning your story means bringing some of these painful parts out into the light and acknowledging their existence. It means feeling the feelings that have been locked up.

The old saying, “The only way out is through,” really applies here.

A Chapter About Shame (or maybe, A Book About Shame)

Shame is so powerful and prevalent.

The voice that says, “You are a mistake,” instead of “You made a mistake.” It is the voice in your head that tells you not to talk about this stuff, because you will be judged. It is the family secret that gets passed from generation to generation that doesn’t allow families to heal.

Shame is often what gets in the way of someone seeking therapy. Why? Because shame hates accountability.

Once you own your shame and let others know about it, it starts to diminish.

You Can’t Rewrite the Past

I often hear clients say, “What’s the point of talking about my past, it’s over, I can’t do anything about it.” While this is true, your past experiences impact your current life choices.

Exploring your past can help you understand who you are today. Why you say “yes” when you really mean “no.”

Why you self-sabotage your own success.

Why you are in yet another unhealthy relationship.

Exploring the past helps you learn where messages like “You’re stupid,” “You’ll never be good enough,” or “You’re unlovable” originated. By examining and understanding these messages, you can begin to change and not allow them to control your life.

You Can Write the Next Chapter

For many individuals, this idea creates fear. Which makes perfect sense, because new chapters, even positive ones, require you to push yourself out of comfort zones.

But with the right support, you can do it; and I look forward to helping you write those new chapters.